Sometimes I post stuff on Twitter and Facebook and it's not true. For example I give the impression I drink way more than I actually do. I'm no saint but I'm not the sinner that I portray.
I can hear you saying "She needs to admit she has a problem. She's in denial." Well maybe, but only I know the truth. Let me give you an insight into a little conversation I had this evening. I'm paraphrasing because I didn't write this down as it happened.
As I'm opening a bar of chocolate I say to Dave "I might just have a glass of wine."
"You bitch! I was trying to be good."
"Well you don't have to have a glass."
"Yeah, like that's going to happen."
"Well I'd be just as happy with a cup of tea."
"Well I'm not opening a bottle, but if you did.... I'm weak."
I didn't. I didn't need a drink, I just thought a drink might be nice or useful. I didn't need it and was just as happy with my cup of tea.
But what the conversation did do was affect Dave. He now wanted a glass/bottle of wine and he didn't want to do the work that he'd persuaded himself he would do tonight.